When They're Back And You Can't Relax

The week the old pattern can return, the pace to move at, and a check-in you run four times a year.Getting them back and keeping it are two different jobs, and almost nobody is taught the second one. This is the week the old pattern returns and what to do inside it, how to move at the pace of the slower person rather than the keener one, and a check-in you run four times a year for as long as you want it.Who it is for They are talking to you again, and you are more frightened than you expected to be You can feel yourself doing the things that cost you last time, and you cannot seem to stop You want this one to hold rather than to repeat What it does Names the week the old pattern comes back, and tells you what to do inside it Sets the pace at the slower person rather than the keener one, which is the single thing that breaks most reconciliations The Escalation Ladder: eight rungs, and how to step back down one without it being a rupture Teaches adding rather than withholding, so closeness grows without either of you managing the other Gives you a check-in you run four times a year, so drift gets caught early instead of discovered late